Lets face it: the first time you have sex with any particular person can be somewhat awkward. After all, you're not experienced with one another and you don't know what the other likes. Plus, your anticipation and expectations have been notched up to a high degree and you may not know how long you can hold off before climax.
Here are 15 high-power steps to great sex:
1. Don't give in to the temptation to get it over with too quickly. If you pace yourself, you increase the chances that she'll be satisfied and won't be able to help wanting to come back for more.
2. Take time to get to know one another before you start taking your clothes off. By this I mean start exploring one another physically. Many women say they wish men would spend more time learning about, and learning to appreciate, their bodies. But what do most men do? They want to go straight for the breasts or down her pants.
3. Instead, build up the anticipation. Start out by keeping things G-rated. Cuddle a bit. Hold her. Women love cuddling. Caress her hair, her face, her arms and her shoulders. Gaze wistfully into her eyes. Make loving smalltalk. Tell her what you find attractive about her. Make sure she knows that you appreciate her.
Such foreplay is necessary for building up the proper mood. It builds the anticipation. It starts biological processes going. It prepares both of you for sex. You both know what's going to happen. It establishes a proper mood. By spending a little time on foreplay, she'll be all the more eager when you start having sex.
4. Okay, now comes the time. Here's a great tip: actually guide her hands to your shirt, help her unfasten the buttons. Do you see the psychological ploy here? She is the one taking the initiative. It makes her realize how fully she is into having sexual intercourse. Although it might make you slightly uncomfortable, it will actually make her more comfortable if you are the first one to strip, at least down to your shorts.
5. Once she has undressed you, you ask her to undress herself. She does it for you. Another psychological ploy: when a woman disrobes herself, it signals her psychological willingness and commitment to having sex. It even gives her a chance to engage in the erotic free expression of stripping. If this seems too intense for you, you can work into this gradually. Each of you can strip partially to begin with. This gives you a chance to get used to each other's bodies.
6. Here's another tip that will make this much easier for both of you. First of all, tell her how beautiful she is, and do it sincerely. You see, most women (and men too) are self-conscious about the way they look. They may feel strange about baring their bodies to a new person for the first time. She may even want to retreat under the covers before getting fully naked. Don't expect all this to work out like it does in the movies.
7. But you can make things a lot easier for both of you. You can make both of yourselves more comfortable by dimming the lights and perhaps even lighting a few candles. Not only does this help set the mood, it will help to flatter her body (and yours). And of course, it creates an incredibly romantic mood.
8. Don't rush through foreplay. In fact, spend as much time on it as you can. Draw it out. Make it the moment. Kiss her. This makes a woman feel loved, appreciated and connected. Many women even find proper foreplay more intimate than sex.
Run your fingers through her hair, caress her body, lightly kiss her, even run your tongue across the outside of her lips. The more areas in which you can stimulate her body simultaneously, the better.
9. At the same time you kiss, use your hands to caress her. Use a gentle touch, as women appreciate this. It feels better to a woman. You can set her skin tingling if done in the right way. Stroke her with your palms or the very tips of your fingers. Use a gentle swirling motion.
10. Engage in a little French kissing, but start gradually. Start by exploring the front of her mouth with your tongue. It's a tease, an exploration. Swallow occasionally if you need to clear your mouth, because French kissing shouldn't be overly wet or sloppy.
11. Don't be afraid to communicate with her. Be conservative the first time. Men don't bother to take the time to learn what a woman's preferences are, what she likes and dislikes. Be different. Find out where her erogenous zones are.
Many guys make the mistake of thinking that what worked on his last girlfriend will work on her. Wrong-O guys! Every woman is different and has different preferences. Always ask her what she likes, what feels good. Even ask her to guide your hands to show you what kind of caressing she enjoys. Never forget the importance of communication.
12. Now another key point: be attuned to the sounds that she is making. These can be incredibly erotic when you're doing something right. They can let you know when you're turning her on.
13. You don't have to be quiet as a church mouse in the bedroom either. Women like it when a guy lets them know that he's enjoying himself by making quiet sounds such as a satisfied "mmmmmm," a slight exhalation, a quiet moan or slightly faster, but still subtle, breathing. This lets a woman know when she's doing something right. It connects the two of you to one another and keeps the whole thing from feeling impersonal. Don't engage in dirty talk, however, unless she initiates it.
14. The more time you spend on foreplay the better. It will make the sexual experience more intense. Shoot for at least 15 minutes. Ideally, it should be much longer. Don't forget to use your hands, and yes, your tongue, whenever possible. Kiss her all the way down her back and up again. Caress her inner thigh -- this is a particularly sensitive area as is the upper part of the buttocks and the small of her back. Trace her skin with your tongue.
These techniques will bring a woman to the brink of orgasm more effectively than trying out various sexual positions. The more you tease her, the more you entice her, the better, more satisfying and stronger will be her orgasm, just as it will be for you.
15. Remember that the act of sex is not an athletic competition. It is more of a ballet. Guys make the mistake of thinking about it in the wrong way. They worry about their performance and are striving for the perfect "10." Wrong way to look at it, guys! She's going to judge you on your consideration, sensitivity, communication, and gentleness, not on some theoretical evaluation of your technique.
Remember that sex is not like you see in most porn videos. Real life is funny, silly, messy, and caring. If you're picturing some kind of idealized conception of sex, you're missing the point. It's not like porn sex, it's better. Your sex partner is a real human being who is baring a part of her by showing the physical body that she normally hides beneath clothing. She is making herself vulnerable to you, someone who is a sexual stranger. Respect that.
Here are 15 high-power steps to great sex:
1. Don't give in to the temptation to get it over with too quickly. If you pace yourself, you increase the chances that she'll be satisfied and won't be able to help wanting to come back for more.
2. Take time to get to know one another before you start taking your clothes off. By this I mean start exploring one another physically. Many women say they wish men would spend more time learning about, and learning to appreciate, their bodies. But what do most men do? They want to go straight for the breasts or down her pants.
3. Instead, build up the anticipation. Start out by keeping things G-rated. Cuddle a bit. Hold her. Women love cuddling. Caress her hair, her face, her arms and her shoulders. Gaze wistfully into her eyes. Make loving smalltalk. Tell her what you find attractive about her. Make sure she knows that you appreciate her.
Such foreplay is necessary for building up the proper mood. It builds the anticipation. It starts biological processes going. It prepares both of you for sex. You both know what's going to happen. It establishes a proper mood. By spending a little time on foreplay, she'll be all the more eager when you start having sex.
4. Okay, now comes the time. Here's a great tip: actually guide her hands to your shirt, help her unfasten the buttons. Do you see the psychological ploy here? She is the one taking the initiative. It makes her realize how fully she is into having sexual intercourse. Although it might make you slightly uncomfortable, it will actually make her more comfortable if you are the first one to strip, at least down to your shorts.
5. Once she has undressed you, you ask her to undress herself. She does it for you. Another psychological ploy: when a woman disrobes herself, it signals her psychological willingness and commitment to having sex. It even gives her a chance to engage in the erotic free expression of stripping. If this seems too intense for you, you can work into this gradually. Each of you can strip partially to begin with. This gives you a chance to get used to each other's bodies.
6. Here's another tip that will make this much easier for both of you. First of all, tell her how beautiful she is, and do it sincerely. You see, most women (and men too) are self-conscious about the way they look. They may feel strange about baring their bodies to a new person for the first time. She may even want to retreat under the covers before getting fully naked. Don't expect all this to work out like it does in the movies.
7. But you can make things a lot easier for both of you. You can make both of yourselves more comfortable by dimming the lights and perhaps even lighting a few candles. Not only does this help set the mood, it will help to flatter her body (and yours). And of course, it creates an incredibly romantic mood.
8. Don't rush through foreplay. In fact, spend as much time on it as you can. Draw it out. Make it the moment. Kiss her. This makes a woman feel loved, appreciated and connected. Many women even find proper foreplay more intimate than sex.
Run your fingers through her hair, caress her body, lightly kiss her, even run your tongue across the outside of her lips. The more areas in which you can stimulate her body simultaneously, the better.
9. At the same time you kiss, use your hands to caress her. Use a gentle touch, as women appreciate this. It feels better to a woman. You can set her skin tingling if done in the right way. Stroke her with your palms or the very tips of your fingers. Use a gentle swirling motion.
10. Engage in a little French kissing, but start gradually. Start by exploring the front of her mouth with your tongue. It's a tease, an exploration. Swallow occasionally if you need to clear your mouth, because French kissing shouldn't be overly wet or sloppy.
11. Don't be afraid to communicate with her. Be conservative the first time. Men don't bother to take the time to learn what a woman's preferences are, what she likes and dislikes. Be different. Find out where her erogenous zones are.
Many guys make the mistake of thinking that what worked on his last girlfriend will work on her. Wrong-O guys! Every woman is different and has different preferences. Always ask her what she likes, what feels good. Even ask her to guide your hands to show you what kind of caressing she enjoys. Never forget the importance of communication.
12. Now another key point: be attuned to the sounds that she is making. These can be incredibly erotic when you're doing something right. They can let you know when you're turning her on.
13. You don't have to be quiet as a church mouse in the bedroom either. Women like it when a guy lets them know that he's enjoying himself by making quiet sounds such as a satisfied "mmmmmm," a slight exhalation, a quiet moan or slightly faster, but still subtle, breathing. This lets a woman know when she's doing something right. It connects the two of you to one another and keeps the whole thing from feeling impersonal. Don't engage in dirty talk, however, unless she initiates it.
14. The more time you spend on foreplay the better. It will make the sexual experience more intense. Shoot for at least 15 minutes. Ideally, it should be much longer. Don't forget to use your hands, and yes, your tongue, whenever possible. Kiss her all the way down her back and up again. Caress her inner thigh -- this is a particularly sensitive area as is the upper part of the buttocks and the small of her back. Trace her skin with your tongue.
These techniques will bring a woman to the brink of orgasm more effectively than trying out various sexual positions. The more you tease her, the more you entice her, the better, more satisfying and stronger will be her orgasm, just as it will be for you.
15. Remember that the act of sex is not an athletic competition. It is more of a ballet. Guys make the mistake of thinking about it in the wrong way. They worry about their performance and are striving for the perfect "10." Wrong way to look at it, guys! She's going to judge you on your consideration, sensitivity, communication, and gentleness, not on some theoretical evaluation of your technique.
Remember that sex is not like you see in most porn videos. Real life is funny, silly, messy, and caring. If you're picturing some kind of idealized conception of sex, you're missing the point. It's not like porn sex, it's better. Your sex partner is a real human being who is baring a part of her by showing the physical body that she normally hides beneath clothing. She is making herself vulnerable to you, someone who is a sexual stranger. Respect that.
15 Keys to Sizzling Sex
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